Nesting

From Psychology Today:

January is often referred to as "divorce month" because many people wait till after the holidays to make the decision to file for divorce. It is also a good time to come up with a temporary plan to ensure that your children's lives are not overly disrupted. Nesting may be the solution to that issue.

When I wrote my first post about birdnesting, also called nesting, about 10 years ago, very few people had heard of it. I had nested with my ex in the mid-1990s, and since then had helped many clients create nesting arrangements. Some articles had been written with criticisms of the idea. However, it was clear to me that most parents can nest with well-documented agreements. There was no guide to nesting so I developed a step-by-step system to help parents nest successfully.

In 2018, I was approached by an editor who had come across my original article. She said “Nesting is a “trending topic” and we would like you to write a book about it.” When the book was published, in 2020, still many had not heard of nesting. But people contacted me from all over the world for interviews.

Now more and more people have learned about nesting, and more divorcing couples are consulting with lawyers and mental health professionals about the advantages of nesting. There is even a Facebook group for parents who are birdnesting.

Read more here.