Monday, June 4, 2018
There have been sad stories covering the legal proceedings in New York of one couple's recent attempts to evict their 30 year old son from their home. We occasionally had similar matters in the Elder Protection Clinic at Dickinson Law. We even had a name for the situation -- "ghost children," as typically the adult child was living in one room, rarely interacting with the rest of the family and often entering or leaving when the parents were away to avoid communications. The older parents would implore us to "do something," but often they did not want to file formal eviction proceedings. Letters requesting departure and offering mediation sometimes worked, but more often did not.
I suspect that if you had been following the proceedings of the New York parents, you were worried about the outcome, as the son seemed to be digging in and pulling out all the stops to resist eviction. I know I worried when I first saw a new headline, reporting that a man had killed his elderly parents and then himself, rather than quietly depart. Tragically, that was a "second" case, in Illinois, not New York.
No easy answers here. The problems are a long time in the making.