Tuesday, February 13, 2018
My family has been struggling with the issue of what to do about the increasing safety risk of a family member who, at age 90+, is still a smoker, but now also a smoker with dementia. Our family has long since given up on the direct health risk of smoking for the individual. But the evidence of a greater risk is everywhere: small burn holes in the carpets, on the arms of a favorite chair, and even melted spots on the linoleum on the kitchen floor beneath the smoker's chair. The latest sign of a serious problem frightened us the most -- a burned hole in the sheets of the bed. Before dementia this individual never smoked in bed; but with dementia, plus problems walking and sitting in a chair, she began to insist on her "first" morning cigarette while still in bed. The situation requires constant monitoring -- but even that is a challenge as it can be hard to find companions who can tolerate this level of smoking.
There is plenty of evidence the risk is more than just to the smoker's health. See, for example, the news link below for a report on a fire that caused the death of the elderly smoker and injuries to the firefighters.
For discussions of approaches to managing, if not stopping the elder's smoking, see also Caring.com on "Should I Take Cigarettes Away From My Mother, Who has Alzheimer's? One person commenting on the column, describes the situation with his own mother as a "dreadful problem. . . . It is the most difficult situation I have ever faced with her and there is no easy solution." Another person provided the following history:
The problem has miraculously resolved itself with the help of some very skilled caregivers. I had to move my [92 year old] mother to a Memory Unit in an Assisted Living Facility. They agreed that she could have 4 cigarettes per day under their supervision. They made an exception for her. For the first several months she asked repeatedly all day long for a cigarette. They patiently distracted her by redirecting her attention or promising a cigarette after dinner, whatever. It didn't stop her begging for a smoke over and over but now, at age 94 and with advancing dementia, she has almost forgotten that she's a smoker.
That's an important caveat -- with dementia, at 94 -- she has "almost forgotten that she's a smoker."