Sunday, May 11, 2014
Back last month I read an opinion piece by Janet Sween that I thought very poignant, and with today being Mother's Day, I wanted to share it with you. My Mother's Keepers, published in the April 12, 2014 NY Times, tells the journey that she and her siblings take as they make decisions about caregiving for their mother. Their mother, who had Alzheimer's, was residing in an ALF until she was determined to be a fall risk and in need of an aide with her at all times.
After spending $20,000 in one month to have round-the-clock aides with their mother, they chose to move their mother into the home of a licensed personal care attendant rather than a nursing home. Their mother spent the last 6 months of her life living with the attendant and her family. The article discusses her parents' frugality and resulting savings and how quickly that went for her mother's care. Although acknowledging nursing home care would have been covered by (according to the article) Medicare, the family decided to keep their mother with the attendant rather than placing her in a nursing home. The caregiver was actually a team-she and her relatives worked together in providing 24/7 care. They grieved along with the family when Ms. Sween's mother died.
I know this is not an isolated story and that many families face issues of how to provide care for their elder parents. This is a touching story and a fitting read on Mother's Day.