Thursday, September 12, 2013
In contrast with the traditional view on retirement, being “joined at the hip” late in life may leave spouses less satisfied and fulfilled than if they had their own separate interests.
The concept of parallel pay, whereby two individuals become engrossed in separate but parallel activities, is increasing more so than in previous generations. Parallel play can make dinner conversations more interesting (because the spouse doesn’t already know what the other has been up to all day), will reassure each spouse that the other can function independently without them, provides some time alone to answer introspective questions, offer challenges that can bring about new confidence, and, of course, make the heart grow fonder.
Parallel play isn’t about extreme emotional separation, just time to allow you to grow and become as whole as you can be.
See Maryanne Vandervelde, Why Too Much Togetherness Can Ruin Retirement, The Wall Street Journal, Sept. 8, 2013.
Special thanks to Jim Hillhouse (Professional Legal Marketing (PLM, Inc.)) for bringing this article to my attention.