Sunday, May 25, 2014
On this Memorial Day, it is fitting that I should post about the military. And, sadly, it is also perhaps appropriate that I comment about the ugly murders that were perpetuated by Elliot Rodger this weekend.
The mentally unstable young man had written an elaborate 140 page manifesto summarizing his life and his reasons for his massacre at UCSB. I did not read every page of the manifesto but a lucid pattern emerges. Rodger was desperately insecure in his masculinity, or rather, his complete absence of such. He was afraid of girls, afraid of friendships, afraid of being a decent human being who cared about others, and always afraid to ask for help. A coward to the very end, he killed himself to escape punishment for his crimes.
Throughout Rodger's deranged manifesto, he had given poignant testimony to his narcissistic personality disorder. At the end, he referred to himself as a "god" who could end life.
One day before Rodger's killing, Admiral McRaven, a Navy SEAL for 36 years, delivered the commencement address at UT Austin. He also spoke, albeit indirectly, about manliness because the SEALS are emblematic of it and women, at this time, are not members. He urged the graduates--including, he specifically said, female grads--to model themselves after the SEALS.
At least one lesson bespoke a manliness that seemed to be informed by those virtues that society has traditionally deemed....feminine.
McRaven told the students that you're not a god and that no one is; learn that you need others' help and don't be afraid to ask for it. "Find someone to help you through life....and respect everyone."
Femininity....a good place for manliness.....