Thursday, May 8, 2008
"Mother's Day and motherhood sometimes aren't all they're cracked up to be - especially for stepmothers, the unsung heroes of blended families.
Parenting always is a challenge, especially in the face of resentment by children who assume that the new woman in their father's life is trying to replace their mother.
Some fortunate women are readily accepted as the caring stepparents they strive to be, but rarely is that the case.Even though a stepmother has no intention of trying to supplant a birth mother, children may misinterpret whatever she does as trying to pretend she is family or, even worse, replace their "real" mother.
On the other hand, a stepmother will be resented as "not caring" if she is not perceived as trying to establish a wholesome family atmosphere." By Dennis O'Brien Warrenton Journal Link to Article
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"For children of divorce, what happens after their parents split up may be just as important to their long-term well-being as the divorce itself.
A new study found that children who lived in unstable family situations after their parents divorced fared much worse as adults on a variety of measures compared to children who had stable post-divorce family situations.
“For many children with divorced parents, particularly young ones, the divorce does not mark the end of family structure changes – it marks the beginning,” said Yongmin Sun, co-author of the study and associate professor of sociology at Ohio State University’s Mansfield campus.
“A stable family situation after divorce does not erase the negative effects of a divorce, but children in this situation fare much better than do those who experience chronic instability”
The study appears in a recent issue of the Journal of Marriage and Family. Sun conducted the study with Yuanzhang Li of the Allied Technology Group." by Newswise, Ohio State University
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