Tuesday, December 19, 2006

Donor-Conceived Child Speaks Out

"When she was 32, my mother -- single, and worried that she might never marry and have a family -- allowed a doctor wearing rubber gloves to inject a syringe of sperm from an unknown man into her uterus so that she could have a baby. I am the result: a donor-conceived child. And for a while, I was pretty angry about it.I was angry at the idea that where donor conception is concerned, everyone focuses on the "parents" -- the adults who can make choices about their own lives. The recipient gets sympathy for wanting to have a child. The donor gets a guarantee of anonymity and absolution from any responsibility for the offspring of his "donation." As long as these adults are happy, then donor conception is a success, right?

Not so. The children born of these transactions are people, too. Those of us in the first documented generation of donor babies -- conceived in the late 1980s and early '90s, when sperm banks became more common and donor insemination began to flourish -- are coming of age, and we have something to say. I'm here to tell you that emotionally, many of us are not keeping up. We didn't ask to be born into this situation, with its limitations and confusion." By Katrina Clark, washingtonpost.com Link to Article (last visited 12-18-06 NVS)

http://lawprofessors.typepad.com/family_law/2006/12/donorconceived_.html

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"I am the result: a donor-conceived child. And for a while, I was pretty angry about it."

That's a pretty good way of putting it. While she may or may not be angry about it, she should perhaps consider (if she hasn't done so already) the fact that if her parents never focused upon themselves and their drives to reproduce, she wouldn't be here to voice her dissent about their methods at all. Would one prefer the void simply because something in their life circle is missing?

To the author I would suggest being glad she's ALIVE, and to consider how wonderful it is to be the person she is and have the things she has. How many unborn ghosts never get a chance at life? More than the stars.

Posted by: Marcus | Feb 3, 2007 12:52:09 PM

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