Tuesday, August 23, 2005
The recent posts on "grief" attracted this response from Denise Riebe, Senior Lecturing Fellow at Duke Law School . . .
I thought the grief topic was an excellent one to address on the blog. I have several comments, all of which you're welcome to send along to anyone that might benefit.
First, I think that we often try to overlook losses and the grieving process. And, often we try to limit "grief" to death situations.
In fact, it is natural for every single type of loss we experience in life to be followed by a grieving process. Other than death, losses may include the loss of a dream, the loss of a friend, the loss of a relationship, the loss of a goal, the loss of one's self-image (I thought I was "smart"), the loss caused by infertility or miscarriage ... the list is long.
Unfortunately, life is filled with losses, and the grieving response is a natural and healthy response (healthy because it helps you deal with and work through a loss and move on).
Support for working through a loss is also crucial. For those without a friend or family they can rely on for support, professional counseling is essential. It's also important to note that, in many situations, the persons that one would naturally rely on for support (example: close family) are unavailable. Why? They, too, are grieving.
I've heard that Hospice organizations have excellent grief group sessions -- where those who have experienced the loss of a loved one can be supported and work through their grief with others experiencing the same thing.
Thanks again for addressing a very important topic.